Charisma- do you know the meaning of it? I always though I did, but after reading The 21 Indispensable Qualities of a Leader by John C. Maxwell, I feel like I have a better understanding and appreciation for it. If you don’t know what it is, allow me to explain…
Basically, the textbook definition for charisma is having the ability to draw people to you, but it is oh so much more than that!
It’s having the ability to make others feel confident about themselves, sharing your wisdom, seeing everyone as equal and giving hope to others. Sometimes, charisma can be viewed as a mysterious and magical thing that only certain people have, and others wish they had. They believe that you’re either born with it, or you not- but that’s false, anyone can acquire this trait, and I’ll give you some tips on how…
But first, let’s really understand the big picture be hide this little word of charisma…
I found the true meaning while I was reading this book, and of course, it was in a quote, becasue how else would I get my inspiration, duh?! ;). This one quote really stuck out to me, like wow, really stuck out to me, and it goes like this; “How can you have charisma? Be more concerned about making others feel good about themselves than you are making them feel good about you”- Dan Reiland. And boom, now that is the meaning behind charisma! In order to have it, you must be an excellent leader who is more concerned about how others think of themselves, than you are with how others think of you. You need to give them all of your time and actually listen to them. Show them you care and be willing to reassure them about themselves. You make them feel better and more confident about themselves, than they did before talking to you.
Along with that, you need to be willing to share yourself with others and be open. You have the ability to help others learn from your past mistakes and successes. You need to steer them in the right direction and give them the extra little nudge they need to get off on the right foot. Be the person to them, that you wish you had had in the beginning. But most importantly, be there for them at all times and be ready to build them back up in a moments notice. Never stop encouraging them and helping them grow, then, you will really have charisma.
If you are having a hard time with this whole charisma thing, then here are a few pointer from the book The 21 Indispensable Qualities of a Leader that John C. Maxwell suggest:
- Love your life and enjoy your life. People like to spend time with others who are up-beat and positive.
- Expect the best out of everyone and choose to only see the good.
- Give hope to others in all situations.
- Be open and share your journey with others.
I hope after reading this post you finally have a better idea behind the word charisma 😉 I loved reading this book and the charisma chapter was by far, my most favorite. I couldn’t suggest this book to you enough if you are looking for a good quick read!
Do you have charisma? If so, how do you display it? Will you work on it now if you don’t think you do?
Have a great day!